Human beings are obsessed with control. Yet, from the beginning of our lives to the end, the real decisions are out of our hands. Existence goes where it will, and we are just along for the ride.
The desire for control is a desperate attempt at self-determination. It will suffocate our every endeavor. Life flows in one direction, and swimming against the current only leads to exhaustion.
Individuals are naturally different, so control is inherently artificial. Deciding something is real does not make it so. Any more than believing you can fly makes it safe to jump off a cliff.
Good things happen when you let go and let them grow. That which you control is dead on arrival. Just because it is moving, does not mean there is any life in it.
Some surprises are pleasant ones. Do not let determination stifle real achievement. Whether it was part of the plan or not, beauty is found where you least expect it.
The world turns without us, but we are the ones who give it meaning. If you have anything in a stranglehold, it cannot breathe freely. Burst the dam, and let it flow.