People are not machines, so there is no blueprint for dealing with them. Often, the best that you can do is to listen. Then, you will learn what is needed.
A person's feelings tend to guide their actions. Be careful of your own, and wary of where they will lead. Know that what you do affects more than you.
Set aside your concerns for the sake of others. Do and say only what will make things better. Sometimes, what is best is to maintain one's silence.
Just being there can mean more than anything else. We all have our path to walk in life. Still, it is comforting when we realize we are not traveling alone.
To be loved and supported is a blessing beyond measure. Cherish those who seek to lift your spirits. When you are weak, they will show you your strength.
Oh, no doubt a person's feelings guide how people act. However, this is sort of a leftover from childhood. Now, I am not saying people become robots. It's more about being a bit more objective about what you are seeing and doing about what you are seeing. And it's also about understanding that hurt feelings are not really, in the grand scheme of things, important.
ReplyDeleteSure, you can be there for someone who is having a bad time. No real issue there. But I dislike the tradition of the fakery people exhibit during this time in order to appease the emotions of another. A lot of these "rules" honestly were handed down by Satan himself. Hell, I always loved how irreverent my Uncle Clarence was at funerals. It was so refreshing while everyone else was trying so hard to spare feelings.
"In the box" behavior patterns perpetuate endlessly until death. We learn nothing from them but how to suppress who we truly are in the most awkward manner possible. It is a broken dance that cripples us as we do it. I think we are better off without it. I think the human race forgot how to properly express themselves, and what that leads to is a lot of bowed heads and frowning faces... and we don't even know why we're doing it anymore.
Irreverence can often be a blessing. It means that person cares enough to speak openly. Still, there are those who take the opportunity to hurt those who are already hurting.
DeleteWe should lift the spirits of those around us, being there does not necessarily mean we have the words those who are hurting need. Being there is supporting those who need us in dark times offering a hand to show we care enough to keep them from falling.
ReplyDeleteWords are not needed to lift spirits. Kindness speaks volumes. People demonstrate they care by their actions.
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