Tuesday, February 24, 2015

What we want

When I was a child, I wanted to be a soldier, a policeman or a firefighter. My concern was not the job itself, but how it made me feel. Desire is raw interest channeled in one direction.

As I grew, my desires changed. In high school, I did not know what I wanted to be. But the clock was ticking on my indecisiveness.

In college, I started in Creative Writing. Then, I changed to music as my primary course of study. Financial realities finally set in, and I ended up with a two-year degree in Information Systems.

There is what we want to be, and then we decide what we will be. Harsh realities emerge and the dream changes form. But it still comes down to desire: how bad do you want it?

Once you have the education, you need to get a job. There are only so many available, so the competition can be rough. And sometimes, you must settle for what is available until you can get what is desired.

I know what I want: to be a professional writer. With several works to my credit, I just need time and opportunity. It is no longer about what I want, but how I plan to get it.

Tuesday, February 17, 2015

Setting a course

There are many obstacles to achieving our dreams. The shortest distance between two points is a straight line. But reality is not so accommodating...

You cannot achieve anything without setting a goal. Then, you must take steps to reach it. This is where a great deal of mistakes are made, until finally the best path is found.

What you try first is likely to be the wrong way. But it is important to keep moving, and correct your course as you go along. To stop is to get nowhere.

Stubbornly following the path will not lead you to the destination. The genius is in determining how to progress despite the terrain. If it brings you closer to the goal, keep going.

We are often our own biggest obstacle. Pride will stumble into a dead end. Wisdom will realize the problem and take steps to overcome it.

Dreams are great motivators, but we must set a good course to be successful. Even then, things will get in our way. In the end, there is no substitute for sheer determination.

Tuesday, February 10, 2015

Two become one

Love is a thing of many splendors. But how quickly it turns to hate. You will do anything for that which you love, and anything to that which you despise.

Compassion and love are not the same. The former cares expecting nothing in return. The latter is always expecting something.

That is why love is transitory: by its nature it is conditional. If the one does not get what they want, the relationship can end. All that seemed so precious can be reduced to bitter memories.

I have seen love in its best form. Years could not separate the two, nor did death fully break the bond they shared. What makes it work is when the two become one.

Likewise, I have seen love at its worst. People have killed for it, and destroyed themselves for its lack. Again, the lack of commitment is usually the culprit.

Those who put themselves aside can love indefinitely. A lifetime is not long enough for them to share. They are a shining example of two individuals together becoming more than the sum of their parts.

Tuesday, February 3, 2015

Making things better

There are things we must nurture and protect. They make us better people. And the world is a better place for it.

Honesty is something to be encouraged. We cannot improve what we refuse to see. Many are highly practiced in the art of self-deception.

Appreciation is also important. Recognize a person's strengths, and not just their weaknesses. Be the one who builds up instead of tearing down.

Consideration goes along with this. Be mindful of others. Your actions affect them, so make sure what you do is actually for the best.

Compassion is to be highly prized. Those who care for others should never find themselves forsaken. They cannot solve the world's problems, but they can be part of the solution.

Treat others the way you wish to be treated. It is an old saying, but the longevity is due to the soundness. A caring person makes everything better just by being who they are.

Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Good riddance

There are things we should get rid of. They will slow us down or even halt our progress. They give us nothing and spoil everything.

Pride is something to be rid of. It gives one an over-inflated sense of importance. And just like a balloon, to pop it just takes someone with a point.

Humility should also be discarded. If we do not extol our virtues, no one else will. The use of a bullhorn is not required, merely the honest statement of one's accomplishments.

Selfishness definitely belongs in the refuse pile. Focusing on yourself to the exclusion of others leads to all manner of wickedness. After all, who can judge a supreme being?

Conversely, selflessness can be just as evil. Those who do not care about themselves cannot care about others. And they so easily become the tools of those with agendas.

Indifference is the most dangerous of vices. It starts with not caring, but never ends there. Instead it regresses, until the semblance of humanity falls prey to the merest of whims.

Tuesday, January 20, 2015

The cycle of life

When we are born into this world, everything is about us. We cannot feed nor even care for ourselves, so others must do so. Some people never grow out of the egotism that results.

As they grow, children learn to do more. However, they are utterly unprepared for the world and require constant supervision. There are adults who need someone looking over their shoulder to be productive.

Adolescence brings about many changes, for now a human being is physically able to take care of themselves. Still, they are afflicted with a bad case of idealism since they have never had to make real decisions. This naivety persists for many, and they do not progress to become responsible individuals.

Reaching adulthood, humans now think they know everything. Experience teaches them the error of their ways. However, there are those out there who will never learn.

Once experience has its way, people become set in their ways. They have forgotten adaptation is necessary for survival. Many will perish, refusing to change.

Life is a cycle of good and bad: mistakes made and lessons learned. Those who know when to change and when to stand firm will progress and thrive. Others complain they were never given a chance, when they squandered every chance they had.

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Doing and learning

There is no instruction manual for life. If one existed, it could not be relied upon. The only thing you can do is your best, and then learn from your mistakes.

Those who do not fail, do not try. Success is always just beyond our grasp. It takes that extra bit of effort to finally grab it.

Victory is fleeting. It is wise to be ready for the next challenge. And be prepared for the setbacks that are sure to come.

For all we know, we know very little. Life is always throwing us something else. Conceit reaches out and draws back a nub.

Discretion is necessary for survival. Realize you do not know everything. And understand what you do not know can kill you.

This is a crazy world. Sometimes it is all we can do to retain our sanity. It takes determination to silence the disquieted mind and calm the troubled heart.